Have you ever mentally checked out of a relationship?

Physically you are present, but mentally you are trying to figure out how did you get here..... No marriage, relationship, friendship is perfect, it takes a lot of hardwork, and dedication for them to thrive. It's like a plant, it needs good soil, nurturing, sunlight, and water to grow. We get so caught up in ourselves we forget about the other person. What is it they need? Am I doing everything I can to make them happy? Am I being the best wife, friend, spouse I can be? When you decide to share your life with another person it's not just your feelings, emotions, or moods you need to worry about. At a point my husband and I were each other's best friend, we could talk to each other about anything without fear of being judged. Somewhere down the line we lost that friendship, and we are not sure how to get back to that place. We do not understand each other, we are not listening to what the other is saying yet we want to be heard loud and clear. The communication just isn't there. We had a bright future but now the picture is blurry and the path has become uncertain. I'm gonna P.U.S.H Pray Until Something Happens!!! Keep us in your prayers as well.... I read in an article earlier and this stuck out:  TO THE SPOUSE WHO’S “CHECKED OUT” OF THE MARRIAGE by Ashley Willis

You tell yourself there is no hope for the marriage. You tell yourself that you are out of options. Out of love. Out of trust. You can’t bear to even look your spouse in the eyes anymore, because you’ve checked out. It’s over…or, at least, you’ve resigned yourself to that thought. The space between the two you has been growing for awhile. But, you both ignored it and called it “life.” The years passed and took your feelings with them. Until one day, you just couldn’t talk anymore. The marriage started to feel like an old, itchy sweater that is three sizes too small.

Your spouse said he/she wanted to get help and work on things. So, you reluctantly went to see a marriage counselor, and life seemed a little better for awhile. But, the two of you still struggle to even talk about anything that doesn’t have to do with the daily routine. It’s exhausting to you. And, you’re pretty sure that he/she is exhausted too. But, he/she won’t give up. Why is that? You can’t seem to figure it out. “Why can’t he/she see that it’s over?” you frustratedly ask yourself. But, deep in your heart, you’re not even sure that it’s over either. You know that you aren’t really out of options…love…and even hope. You’re just so tired. And, you’re at a loss of what to do next. You don’t even feel like you know him/her anymore,and the thought of rebuilding what’s been lost seems too daunting. But, what if that’s not the goal? What if you’re not supposed to “rebuild” what is lost? What if you both are supposed to mourn it and do your best to start anew? What would that look like?